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Divorce Therapy in Philadelphia
Online & In-Person PA, NJ, NY
Have your relationships felt like more work than reward?
Relationships don’t have to hurt.
You went into your last relationship hoping it was a sure thing. You may have been deeply in love with your partner or maybe deep down you actually had serious doubts. Either way, it’s become clear that that person isn’t your person. But what does it mean to walk away from a relationship you’ve invested so much of yourself in? You were a wife or husband to this person. A mother or father with them. You were the professional so they could stay home with the kids. Or maybe you were the super parent so your partner could have the career. Whatever your particular story, you had a well-defined role for a long time. Starting over? Dating again? It feels daunting and confusing. What will life look like in totally different roles? And of course, how do you tell your kids? Especially when your co-parent is impossible to communicate with or simply has different beliefs about when, how and what to say.
You are feeling on-edge, wondering when the next bomb may land in your inbox. It’s easy to fall into the blame game routine. Your mind overflows with resentful memories. It’s hard to stop yourself from replaying old conflicts and creating new ones. At the same time, a part of you recognizes that you’re stuck in unhealthy patterns. You may find yourself distracted at work or up late at night thinking about how to make things better and how to be that part of yourself that has a strong voice. But where to begin?
Therapy has the power to bring relief
My Approach to Divorce Therapy
Identify the relationship issue that keeps coming up
Understand the part of you that needed that strategy in the past and doesn’t anymore
Let go of the way things used to be
Discover what’s possible with clarity about what you actually need and desire
Practice responding to your co-parent or new relationship with self-confidence and authority
Divorce Therapy can help you…
Reconnect to yourself
Respond with confidence
Reduce conflict
Reclaim your voice
It’s possible to break free of anger & resentment.
Your life doesn’t have to crumble.
Giving yourself or your co-parenting relationship the time and attention it needs during this most difficult time, is powerful. You are taking a radical stance in acknowledging that an ending has occurred and your family will forever be changed. In beginning to talk about this transformation, you have already started the process of healing.
As you continue in therapy, you can find peace with this new reality. You can recover your confidence. You can believe in yourself again. Your family is different than it once was, and that is okay. Your relationships can grow from new soil, and you can do the things that you dreamed about but never before had the self-confidence or drive to do.
Time is taken to recognize the pain of parting ways. Facing this reality is extremely brave and exceptionally painful. It is also freeing.
What would you do if you felt no shame about the divorce? What would it feel like to allow yourself to feel angry, sad, or hurt about it? And what if feeling all that didn’t destroy you? What if feeling those feelings actually allowed you to move forward?
Therapy provides a place to grieve the loss of the family as you knew it. Therapy also provides guidance on how to move through grief and allow it to change you. We will debunk myths about grief that may be obstacles to recovery, and allow space for new ways of seeing old problems. We will tackle how to deal with everything that comes after divorce, like co-parenting, telling without overtelling, navigating extended family relationships, and putting the pieces together so that family can still be family, but different than before.
Frequently asked questions about counseling for divorce
FAQs
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I am here to help. I specialize in supporting adults of all ages recover from all different kinds of relationship endings. Schedule your free consult today to see if you’d like to work with me.
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In addition to the above, I provide professional letters and treatment summaries.
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No. I remain as unbiased and neutral as possible.
I work with families to improve communication so that the family or families can withstand change and conflict. My work with court-involved families is respectful of your family’s unique set of circumstances. I believe that both parents have important stories to tell.
Long-lasting change comes from tolerance and balance, not over-powering and persuasion.
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Yes, individual parents or coparents are welcome. Coparenting therapy can be an effective way to promote a cooperative coparenting relationship that focuses on action, problem-solving, and child-centered solutions.